Post by minx on Jul 15, 2024 8:23:38 GMT -5
I was thinking about what John said regarding the family section of Project 2025.
And I 100% agree that we need to work a LOT harder on reversing the Reagan-era policies of separating families, which pushed fathers out of the picture in poorer families. That spread to the middle and upper classes quickly for sure.
But the reality is that many marriages end in divorce and many kids are in blended families.
So how do we help foster the parental relationships for these children to give them stability?
I would start at pregnancy.
I'm pregnant and John is my baby daddy. We're not getting married, but I'm going to carry the pregnancy to term.
At that point, there should be classes & programs available to both of us - some joint, some separate.
All on how to support a child both financially and emotionally. And a custody, visitation and financial support plan should be worked out before baby arrives.
Part of that plan will indicate when John will be physically able to take the child overnight (if you're breastfeeding, it's simply not feasible for a month or two).
Divorce/Separation
This gets a little harder, because parents separate without filing paperwork so there is no easy way to find a delinquent parent.
But again, courses and programs are immediately available to address the needs of children from split homes.
Some on mediation and conflict resolution - how to solve disagreements between each other, how to solve children trying to play you against each other, how to get along well enough to co-parent.
Again a clear plan on how the child will be supported both emotionally and financially.
And a clear visitation plan with the interest of the child being first.
Pie in the sky of course.
The emphasis probably should start BEFORE sex. Telling men that every time they have sex they are running the risk of creating a pregnancy. EVERY time. And if they get someone pregnant, they will be held responsible for child support and will have to help raise said child. So make sure to always, always use protection dude!
And I 100% agree that we need to work a LOT harder on reversing the Reagan-era policies of separating families, which pushed fathers out of the picture in poorer families. That spread to the middle and upper classes quickly for sure.
But the reality is that many marriages end in divorce and many kids are in blended families.
So how do we help foster the parental relationships for these children to give them stability?
I would start at pregnancy.
I'm pregnant and John is my baby daddy. We're not getting married, but I'm going to carry the pregnancy to term.
At that point, there should be classes & programs available to both of us - some joint, some separate.
All on how to support a child both financially and emotionally. And a custody, visitation and financial support plan should be worked out before baby arrives.
Part of that plan will indicate when John will be physically able to take the child overnight (if you're breastfeeding, it's simply not feasible for a month or two).
Divorce/Separation
This gets a little harder, because parents separate without filing paperwork so there is no easy way to find a delinquent parent.
But again, courses and programs are immediately available to address the needs of children from split homes.
Some on mediation and conflict resolution - how to solve disagreements between each other, how to solve children trying to play you against each other, how to get along well enough to co-parent.
Again a clear plan on how the child will be supported both emotionally and financially.
And a clear visitation plan with the interest of the child being first.
Pie in the sky of course.
The emphasis probably should start BEFORE sex. Telling men that every time they have sex they are running the risk of creating a pregnancy. EVERY time. And if they get someone pregnant, they will be held responsible for child support and will have to help raise said child. So make sure to always, always use protection dude!