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Post by Dave's Not Here Man on Jul 16, 2019 16:22:50 GMT -5
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Post by minx on Jul 24, 2019 10:52:42 GMT -5
I've been reading a book about domestic violence. I just finished section 1, which is the detailed case history of one family. When the wife finally reached her breaking point and filed a restraining order (husband had broken into her mom's house and assaulted her sister and mom), husband was arrested and bailed out in less than 10 hours. He called her (a violation of the restraining order) to let her know he was free, and she immediately recanted the charges. Author studied thousands of cases and said that this happened in almost all of them - you already know that the person is dangerous, and now you realize that the system isn't going to do shit to help you, so you'd better do whatever it takes to appease this guy and do it fast. (and yes, he ended up killing her and the kids before shooting himself). Second part of the book is dealing with the abusers themselves. Author thought it wouldn't be a full case study if she just focused on the victims - she wants to try to find if there are common factors that may predict what would make a person turn into an abuser. In the case of the first family portrayed, there were many people who said he had been a nice kid, gotten into trouble as a teen, and they all thought he had gotten his act together. And up until the end, everyone thought the wife was the one they needed to help - he adored the kids and would never hurt them. Third section deals with the people who assess and intervene in domestic violence situations and their recommendations on things that can be done to prevent it. In the first section many of the people interviewed outside of the family and friends said that if the husband had been held in jail a little longer, this may have not happened. They felt that both he and his wife needed help and counseling. Him to accept it was over, and her to find a safe place and a way to safely interact with him since they had shared children. And yeah, 7 years for raping a child is ridiculous, but I bet my life savings that he had a plea deal.
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