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Post by minx on Oct 16, 2023 16:54:47 GMT -5
"Mental health" toys to help kids learn coping strategies and build resilience.
HAHAHAHAHAHA!
Half of the toys in the article I read were toys and games my kids played with - they're just being re-marketed to target the latest fad and parental fears.
You know what builds resilience? Actually playing with your kid and talking with them! And allowing them to do things by themselves so they can see what happens if they mess up and can do better next try.
I know - I was kind of shocked too. Who knew?
It seems like we have collectively taken leave of every last sense we have.
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Post by Dave's Not Here Man on Oct 17, 2023 11:03:45 GMT -5
Absolutely. I know we're not child psychologists here but aren't some things just patently obvious? Coping and problem solving are things that will come quite naturally to children raised by even less than perfect parents. I like how when the nugget falls down, on the carpet, his parents don't gasp with fright and immediately scoop him from the ground. They save that for the big falls, the ones that really hurt, not the cries that come as a result of over-reactions. They read to him even, get on the floor and play with him, and he wants but doesn't always get. Very much the same as they were raised. He will never have to face his problems alone as a child but he will have to face them.
I'm always reminded of when I took my daughter to freshman orientation at GMU and one of the mother's asked "what if my daughter is sick and can't contact me"...... my daughter looked at me and rolled her eyes and said that's what you spent the last 18 years preparing me for.
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Post by minx on Oct 17, 2023 12:36:09 GMT -5
And that's how you should be doing it!
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Post by Dave's Not Here Man on Oct 17, 2023 14:31:51 GMT -5
I saw a lady today that had her little boy on a leash (it was tethered to his little backpack). There could be a dozen reasons why she thought that was necessary, like maybe he has a history of bolting from her in parking lots or grocery stores. Without knowing and better yet it's not my place to judge but it was something that seemed very unusual to me and maybe a hair unconventional. My biggest question (to myself) is what happens when you take off that lead?
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Post by minx on Oct 17, 2023 16:03:08 GMT -5
I had a friend who leashed her kid. He was a wild child who would dart into traffic. But he was only on it when they were in an extremely busy place. As he got older and listened more, they were able to stop using it. Think he was about 3.5 years. So I do get doing that.
My big thing right now is the whole 'Gentle Parenting' movement where you explain everything to your kid. To me, it only works but so far. I can explain to you until I'm blue in the face that throwing a toy hurts someone, but if you don't want to listen, then clearly the recourse is to say 'no toy for you!'
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Post by k9krap on Oct 17, 2023 17:08:22 GMT -5
My sister desperately wanted to be her kids’ best friend and I fear that my niece is following her in that regard, judging from her posts. 😢 She just turned a year old. Gratuitous grand niece (great niece?) photo attached.  |
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Post by minx on Oct 18, 2023 12:05:42 GMT -5
She's a cutie for sure, but kids need limits.
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